celibacy.. celibacy.. celibacy..

Celibacy as defined in wikipedia.com refers to the lack of participation in sexual intercourse. A vow of celibacy is a promise not to have sex and not to enter into marriage. Sometimes the word is also defined as the state of being unmarried.

In my age and in our generation, it fascinates me that still a few people on our bracket practices this or so they say… Celibacy is a word that is inherently deep… its idea and everything that contributes to it has its certain vagueness that one can’t easily conceptualize… the scope, the limitations gives rise to dozens of questions on my mind…

A friend of mine, whom I think might have fallen for a completely insane guy who vows to this, made me think of how this “oath” may affect the pretty picture waiting for the both of them… Well this blog might’ve started with celibacy but it doesn’t mean that it will be all about it…before I continue on with my blabbing on celibacy let me first tell you a simple story about a couple(or not, they confuse me…) who, for years, have probably waited on each other and finally almost got there until this word CELIBACY existed…

The story starts way back in high school…
Well there was an emo sort of ghetto girl friend of mine who practically lives insanely and of total opposite of one of my guy friends who was a jock and who was somewhat nerdy. Both basically lives in a world contradictory to each other. The girl was silent but deadly, she’s often unseen and unnoticed because of her meekness then she’ll surprise you with her bad ass attitude while on the other hand the boy was extremely popular, he’s the type of guy you’d see most in the school newspaper for extra curricular activities. For the first two years of our high school life the two almost didn’t cross each other’s path except for school affairs such as batch meetings, etc. They never really had conversations nor any connections as a matter of fact until our junior year. I didn’t know how it started but one day, the two major opposites found a common ground and clicked. At first, the two had usual casual talks then gradually they became more comfortable with each other. Well for quite sometime, as I see it, the two were inseparable. Probably not in the eyes of others because both stole moments together. Well high school was sort of judgmental, privacy was not an option and wave effects are bound to happen if the two had made something official then, so I guess they chose(unknowingly) to keep it mutual. So it continued in our senior year, still no official things, only mutual feelings. Sweet hugs, intimate talks, hidden tied hands everything was all butterflies for them but it wasn’t always like that, probably due to the constant changes the feelings withered and they grew out of each other by the end of the senior year. They remained friends until after graduation, both engaged to new relationships and both found themselves far apart up until recently. A certain occasion made it possible for the two to reunite and catch up with each other once again. It was an impeccable night, the setting was just right as well as the timing so both of them reminisced and rekindled their mutual thing but this time there was an addition to it. They weren’t scared anymore, the peer pressure was gone, they were both mature and ready. All was going well, the girl got swept off her feet and the boy was seemingly spell bound by the girl once more, but the night has to end and the boy has to leave. Promises were made and again secrets were kept and all was sealed with a unforgettable kiss. As days passed by(until now) the two kept in touch and became mutually attached once more, nothing official again but they kept the communication. (Sorry but I guess it isn’t the end of their love story so there’s no tragic ending nor happily ever after yet.)

In one of their conversations (as related by my girl friend and also as I remembered my guy friend swearing on) celibacy was brought up. So it is here where I continue on with my jabber about celibacy. Well to cut the story on their conversation short the boy pretty much vowed on celibacy and this was hindering the prosperous continuity of their relationship.

Well maybe you’d think that this is all about the sex, NO. Sex is just something superficial in one‘s relationship, what is hindering them is that the boy thinks that part of celibacy is abstaining himself from falling seriously in love which I think is so much bogus. Celibacy, on my opinion, is a personal choice which should be respected by all but this should not keep one from giving love a shot. Why hold your feelings back? Sexual tension will always be there but it can always be controlled. Why'd he think platonic love was created???? oh well..

Love is one of the most beautiful things in this world and one who has it or feels it should not suppress it because one may grasp it now with both hands but without setting it free its as good as crushed.